Your Mind-Body Coach

I’ve realized that there are a lot of things that I’d like to do.

• I’d like to make a really good living without having to work 40 hours a week
• I’d like to have six-pack abs
• I’d like to enjoy time with my daughters
• I’d like to enjoy time with my wife
• I’d lie to enjoy time alone
• I’d like to help people achieve their goals, whatever they might be
• I’d like to show more people that they are amazing creatures

I’d like a lot of things, but until I start doing something, nothing will happen. So I have to go back to baby steps. I think I can still write my book and get my ideas figured out well enough to share with people for free. I think I can make my life what I really want it to be and have those in my life benefit from it.

So I ask you, what do you want and what are you actually willing to do? At some point you have to do something.  What will it be?

If you haven’t seen the Bill O’Reilly YouTube video then you might not know what I’m talking about. Take a look at it when you get a chance as it’s well worth it. Bill seemed to be having an issue with the term “Play us out” which is what you say when a band’s, or singer’s, music is playing while the show is closing. Well, Bill didn’t know what the phrase meant and seemed to be in shock and disbelief that it was the right thing to say. So he complained and complained until he realized that there was no time to record that part of the show and he had to “Do it live”. There’s a lot of swearing so just be ready.

The reason I’m mentioning it is that he didn’t trust his people enough to go with the flow (negative) but he still knew he had a job to do and sucked it up with a smile on his face (positive). I haven’t seen anyone else mention the positive part and I think it says a lot of his character that he would do something he felt unsure of because that was his only viable option.

How many times do we avoid uncertain options like that or keep complaining versus putting a smile on ourface and getting the job done? I know I’ve done it far too often.

So here’s to you Bill, for swearing your ass off, getting pissed as hell, and still getting the job done like a professional. Sometimes, we just need to shut up and drive forward to be successful.

Well the past few months have been quite a whirlwind. Here’s the rundown:

• I’m sitting pretty in the best job I’ve ever had and am trying to make a difference. I have lunch with a co-worker and say: ” this is the happiest I’ve ever been in a job”
• The very next day I have a quick meeting placed on my calendar with the senior director of my group. I walk into a room that morning to be told I’m being laid off in 6 weeks a long with 10% of my peers. Even though I was only therre 7 months, I get 3 months of severance pay.
• I rush to complete my PMP (Project Management Professional) certification. Lots of studying and late nights, all while keeping a job and trying to transition my work to the guy who is getting all of it. This goes on for three weeks.
• A job opens up in a division of my soon to be ex-company that focuses on health coaching (ding! ding!)
• I  call a contact that had been given to me months before to inquire about their division and it turns out that the contact works in the group with the position! She gives my information to the hiring manager and my manager reaches out to her to endorse my candidacy.
• I pass the PMP exam.
• A friend of mine who works at a marketing agency calls me that same day and says he has a job for me if I want it. I start the Monday after my last day (Friday) and it’s temp-to-perm so the pay is great and there’s no commitment.
• I interview for the “dream job” and things look great.
• I sign up for the Immunity to Change workshop in Cambridge, Mass happening next week.
• We decide to sell the house and downsize our lives.

Busy, busy, busy. But I’m moving towards my goal. If I get this job, I’ll be that much closer to it. I’ll learn more about corporate coaching programs, how they work, the measured return. Hopefully I can get trained in the different methods and make more contacts. This will be a hard job, but it’ll be rewarding and have lots of upside. If I don’t get it, I’ll just readjust and drive on. This is flow at such an amazing level. I hope I get to share this with others.

I can’t think of another way to say it. I want to bring vitality to people’s lives. In their health, their relationships, at their jobs/work…everywhere.  Seems like a big task to tackle, but what I’ve realized is there is no one single way to achieve the best things in life because for everyone, that means something different.

Who am I to tell you what you should want?

But I can help you get what you want. Not just what you say you want, but what you really want. What fits with who you are and supports you in your day-to-day life without beating you up. Where doing a day’s hard work feels good and rewarding.

In the end, we all want to achieve something and be happy about it. Seems fair. Now let’s get started…

This blog will be the whole of my self-actualization learnings, but broken down to their simplest form. I seem to have the ability to bridge between the more complex technologists and the layman, and in this work, I will attempt to bridge between more complex thoughts and ideas and the action-driven plan that one might follow to achieve greatness, nothing less.

As I wrote that word, “greatness” I smiled. One reason it makes me smile is that it sounds like a lofty goal: “to be great”. Another is that it sounds a little hokey or like Sales-type positive mental attitude talk. I don’t think either is true, now that I’m seeing the potential that all humans have, but I love the idea of achieving greatness and how funny it sounds to say (more on that in future posts). But greatness, like success, is subjective. It can mean all kinds of things at once or just one thing. You, the reader, get to decide what greatness means for you. My job, if you’ll allow me, is to help you get there.

The idea of Heaven or whatever it is for other religions: nirvana, enlightenment, the void, absence of suffering; is an easy display of “stick” and “carrot” motivation. The carrot is the heaven that we may work towards, but for many these places or mind-states are an escape from the everyday (the stick). But it is in the everyday suffering where we can find our heaven. The smiles of comfort from our loved ones at a funeral. The happiness of our babies after having their diaper changed. The satisfaction of finding a new job. the rewards are there, but many of them are internal. Where else is heaven if not within us?

Ok. I’m almost done. It’s the resolution savior and I’m trying to get it out in time for the Chinese New Year. Since most resolutions fail in the first few weeks, that should be pretty perfect for most people. It’s been a lot of work but probably the most satisfying work I’ve ever done.

Just a bit longer now…

Hi all,

I just wanted to let you know that I am working on a free program that will help you get the body you’ve been wanting. If you’ve been burned by diets or “insane” workouts in the past, then look no further. What I’m working on will hard wire your brain to lose weight and keep it off. And the best part is that you can use the same techniques to make other changes in your life like at work, or in your relationships. Basically, if you’ve been acting in a way that is different than you say you want to act, then read the book. There will be no more “moments of weakness” and only conscious decisions that will move your body and your life to the next level.

I’ll have it ready by Christmas, so let me know if you’re interested.

While it may not appear to take a long time, writing blog posts can take me hours.  I usually have an idea that festers for a few days and then I try to put it down and it takes me a few tries to get it right. so that’s why I don’t post often and that’s an issue.

Why not just post something short?

So I will post at least once a week and try to have it take less than ten minutes. Why should you care? Because some of my best stuff is off the cuff.  Btu now that I’ve spent 2 minutes typing this last bit ( I type so slowly), I’ve got 8 minutes to hit you with something worthwhile. So here goes:

You are amazing. I’ve said it before, but just the fact that you can read this means you have an ability that 750 million people worldwide do not have. Revel in that. Be thankful that you have that, even if you have little else. If you have running water you have something that over 3 billion people worldwide don’t have.

So when you get cut off on the road headed into work or when the barista gets your coffee order wrong, try to give yourself some perspective on what that really means. Because when we can separate the things that happen to us from what we think they mean about us, we can face our days with an ability to change our circumstances or at least deal with them in the near-term.

Yesterday I met with a local coach to establish a partnership. He is a certified Immunity to Change coach and I am an expert in movement and health. Together, we will be bringing supportive ideas to the masses to help them achieve and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Not a small undertaking.

We’re tired of the assumption that most people make that the problem is that they “don’t want it badly enough”. That’s crap. They’re just giving their energy to the wrong things. When I say “wrong things” I mean that these activities don’t support the health goals that most people have. And to be honest, most people just want to be happy. Unfortunately, we want to be right more than we want to be happy. And if we believe that we don’t deserve to be fit or healthy, then we are making ourselves right everyday.

So not only do we have to help people make better choices, but we have to teach them how to remove the negative beliefs they have about themselves that keep pushing them towards unhealthy choices. Their health improvements will be a major side effect to our work, but I expect nothing less than life transformations for those who can let go of what’s holding them back.